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MANAGING CO-PARENTING DURING YOUR FIRST HOLIDAY SEASON SEPARATED

The holiday season can create some of the best memories in life, especially for children. For families who are spending the holiday season separated for the first time, it can bring a significant amount of stress and fear for both the parents who are transitioning into the role of co-parents, as well as the children. […]

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Newly Divorced, Separated or Single? How to Start New This Holiday Season

If you’re newly separated or divorced, leading into the holiday season alone for the first time can be daunting, and you may be feeling some emotions you may not have felt in some time. If there are children in your family, and your ex-partner has them in their care, whether by court orders or mutual […]

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5 Ways To Create Emotional Boundaries

The key to any healthy relationship is creating emotional boundaries. It is a skill that many of us have yet to do as effectively as we would like. Sure, we pick up pieces here and there after seeing others skillfully manage boundaries, for most people this concept is as new as it is challenging. Here […]

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Overcoming Rejection

You will be able to cope with and recover from rejection quickly if you know how to deal with it. It will likely happen to every single one of us at some point in our lives. Of course, one of the most common ways we face rejection is in our relationships with others. Forms of […]

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Las Vegas Shooting: Talking to Your Kids & Managing Social Media

In less than 24-hours after what has been identified to be one of the largest-scale shootings in United States history, details and images of the tragedy in Las Vegas have consumed the media. These details, images and sounds have also likely consumed the screens of your children’s electronic devices. The attempt to find a delicate […]

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Recuperating from Failure

Some people are just better equipped at handling failure than others, but unfortunately, many of us struggle to bounce back after experiencing a personal failure. That means it takes time to work up the courage to tackle something new, which can be a very difficult way of managing life circumstances. Nothing could be truer when […]

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Anger: How and Why our Brains Take Over

When we are frustrated and angry with someone we love, we tend to act in ways and say things that we regret shortly after. It usually helps when I explain that there are very good reasons our brains short circuit when we are angry (making us short circuit), and that there are neurochemical and survival […]

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Reunification Therapy: Dr. Forshee’s Process

Reunification therapy is a process designed to improve or reestablish the relationship between a parent and child. The focus of reunification therapy is on ascertaining the source of estrangement between the parent and child and thereafter working with the family to build or rebuild a healthy and connected relationship with the parent. Dr. Forshee’s role […]

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Caregivers Seminar on Depression

In the older adult, there are many variables that can contribute to clinical depression, or that may manifest as depression but truly may not be clinical depression. Life transitions; loss of loved ones; loss of independence and loss of careers; medical problems and prescribed medications are all potential complicating factors to consider prior to concluding […]

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Depressed or Just Sad?

Depression can leave someone feeling hopeless, lethargic, and unmotivated. It can last for a brief period of time, or what seems to be forever. Grief can leave people feeling similarly, so what is the difference? Around 1 in 10 American adults experience depression and it is one of the most common disabilities in the US. […]

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Assertiveness Versus Aggression

Being assertive in any relationship requires courage. Many people don’t know what true assertiveness looks like, and instead resort to aggression to make their point known. Being assertive may feel uncomfortable or awkward when you aren’t used to it, however, if practiced properly it can positively impact your relationships. Being Assertive Being assertive does not […]

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Marriage Counseling: The Gottman Method

An emerging treatment for marital and couples counseling is the Gottman Method. If you haven’t heard of it, here’s a rundown of who the Gottman’s are, and what the Gottman Method is. Who are the Gottmans? Dr’s. John and Julie Gottman are two world-renowned researchers in the fields of marriage, divorce and couples’ treatment. Dr. […]

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Treatment for OCD: Systematic Desensitization

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, or OCD, can become crippling to one’s life. The disorder affects millions of people all around the world, and can affect an individual’s ability to function. The disorder manifests itself as a person experiencing uncontrollable, recurring thoughts (Obsessive) or uncontrollable repetitive actions and/or behaviours (Compulsions) — such as washing one’s hands many, […]

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Diaphragmatic Breathing for Anxiety

Anxiety affects all of us in different ways, and although it is likely non-threatening, for some people it can significantly interfere in their ability to have the life they know they are capable of. Most of us get anxious before an important exam, test results for a medical problem, or even a joyous moment like […]

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What is Interpersonal Psychotherapy (IPT)?

People who find themselves in need of marriage counseling are not likely to have come across the term Interpersonal Psychotherapy (IPT). There are many different techniques for marriage counseling, and too much terminology can be off-putting for people who already find themselves in a stressful situation. With that said, it is important to understand the […]

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How to Navigate Child Custody During Divorce

As common as divorce is, the process is rarely easy for everyone involved. Every situation is different and has its own pressure points, and navigating to the best outcome can take some work. Fortunately, many divorces are completed with a minimum of tension — this is often due to the process of co-parenting counseling, which […]

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Crisis Text Line: Dr. Forshee’s Experience & Recommendation

This morning I tested out a new texting crisis line called ‘Crisis Text Line’ from my personal cell phone. I am usually leery about these texting crisis lines; however, after my experience with and research into this Crisis Text Line, I encourage professionals in all arenas to provide this number to potential at-risk individuals as […]

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Children’s Reactions to Divorce: What They Need From You

When two parents decide to separate or divorce, the prospect of sitting down with the children and explaining what’s going to happen is always nerve-wracking. Often times, parents transfer their own emotions and anxieties onto the children, making the situation more stressful than it could otherwise be. That’s why it’s important to step back, take […]

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Dr. Forshee’s Response to the Netflix Show “13 Reasons Why”

The show on Netflix titled ‘13 Reasons Why’ has caused quite a bit of controversy. This controversy is likely partly due to the unknown element associated with what it means for youngsters watching this show. Over the course of the past several weeks, I have been asked what my professional opinion is on this show. […]

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Separated Parents Raising Children

When couples go through a separation or divorce, children are often the most challenging part of the process — and for good reason. Although the family dynamic is going through a definitive change, you’re still both parents. You want this change to be as positive and uplifting as possible for your kids. At the same […]

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Your Brain on Love

Love can feel like an addiction. Scientifically, there is evidence supporting this experience. In human brain scans, our brains light up in different locations depending on the stage of love we are in (new-love stage; madly-in love 20-years later stage, and the madly –in love but recently dumped stage). Essentially, different parts of our brain […]

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The Chemistry of Touch

Want to know how to use touch to help facilitate attachment and love? In your first session with Dr. Danielle Forshee on her You Tube Channel, you will get tips on how to do this— and learn the science behind it. To see more videos by Dr. Danielle Forshee, please head over to our YouTube […]

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“What the hell is this!?” mode

Conflict occurs in all relationships. The presence of conflict does not mean your relationship is headed for disaster. In relationships where perpetual conflict occurs; when you are chronically in “WHAT THE HELL IS THIS?!” mode rather than “WHAT IS THIS?” mode toward your loved one, take heed that your relationship is likely headed into muddy […]

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How to Flirt to Get What You Want

Have you ever thought about how you initiate relationships? Ask yourself- what are you looking to achieve when flirting? A serious relationship or a quick hook up? The verbal and non-verbal cues you communicate while flirting, and whether your flirting signals are appreciated, will likely determine the quality of your relationships. Research published in the […]

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What To Expect After an Affair

Once the secret of an affair is exposed, the aftermath for both partners and the overall relationship is catastrophic. Insults and harsh words are catapulted; tears pour harder than the Niagara Falls; fears, blame and shame become intermingled in the litany of pain. The confusion of hate and love seem to become one and the lack […]

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Why Do People Cheat?

Did your partner cheat on you?  Have you been thinking of cheating? Before making any decisions in either situation, consider what may be going on at the root of the desire to step out. In 2012, a few psychologists were interested in learning the motivations that led those involved in extramarital relationships (men and women) […]

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“In Love” Euphoria

At the peak of being in love, it is euphoric and addictive. We yearn for their touch… the sound of their voice. Time stops when they are not within reach – we feel lovesick. Eventually our “in-love” euphoria diminishes. What happened to us? The average life span of “in-love” euphoria lasts 2 years. This is […]

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2 Communication Tips That Can Save Your Relationship

There are many reasons couples attend marriage counseling. In my experience as a marriage counselor, one of the foundational issues in relationship problems relates to communication. Often these difficulties have its roots in not saying what you mean, not feeling understood by the other or feeling that your partner is not listening. This breakdown of […]

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5 Tips on How to Choose a Marriage Counselor

In my practice, I regularly witness how anxiety provoking and unsettling it can be when couples decide to attend marriage counseling. Typically, by the time one partner decides to take the plunge and reach out to a marriage counselor, both parties fear their relationship may be nearly unrepairable. To add to your list of worries, […]

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Dear Dads of Daughters

Dear Dads of Daughters: You are the first man in your daughter’s life. The positive impact you will have on her future emotional and social development and success is powerful beyond words. Fathers are not always recognized for the astounding role they play in shaping how their daughters will ultimately feel about herself and interact […]

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To My Influencers, Thank You…

A few months ago I received a letter from a fifteen-year old girl. The letter began, “My name is Caroline. I’m a sophomore in high school and we are doing career research in our Writing class.” In the letter, Caroline went on to express her interest in learning more about psychotherapy and identified herself as feeling […]

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New Jersey Residents: Protected From Divorce?

Did you know that if you live in New Jersey your marriage will have a statistically higher chance of lasting a lifetime than if you live in almost any other state? The most recent Census results from 2014 reflect that New Jersey has the 4th lowest divorce rate in the nation, and divorce rates in […]

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Punishment -VS- Discipline

Trying to decipher the best method of teaching your child ‘right’ versus ‘wrong’ and ‘desirable’ versus ‘undesirable’ behaviors can be frustrating. Some of the verbiage that you hear and read can also be confusing. Let’s look at what the differences are between reinforcements punishments & discipline, and which may have the most positive and long-term […]

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4 Parenting Styles

There have been decades of research (in the United States and across cultures) supporting the importance of parenting for the development and overall well-being of children and adolescents. Some specific components of parenting (support and control) have been shown to be particularly relevant to adolescent psychological functioning. Parental “support”, or warm and nurturing parenting, promotes […]

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Parents: The Grandmaster Yodas of the Universe

Parents are the true Grandmaster Yodas of the Universe. Parents are charged with the most trying and important job of raising future generations of Grandmaster Yodas. I’m sure we can all agree that being a parent (and parenting) is important, but what makes it the most important job in the Universe beside ensuring survival of […]

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3 Benefits of a Collaborative Divorce

Divorcing can be one of the most emotionally exhausting and challenging experiences of your adult life- especially if you have children. If not handled with care, the conflict that arises from a divorce can inflict emotional havoc on your children that may reverberate throughout their lifetime. It is not the divorce itself that can cause […]

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How to Manage a Separation or Divorce During the Holidays

The good and the bad memories flash through your mind like a slideshow; feelings of loss, anger or guilt poke at your soul like a flaming torch; you yearn for yet despise smells, sounds and touches that remind you of what once provided you comfort. The struggle to keep these feelings, memories and thoughts to […]

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Relationship Crash

It’s difficult not to have expectations of others, especially from the person we are in a relationship with. There are times we are unaware of the expectations we have of our partner. Then there are times where we are fully aware of what we want from our partner and hold tightly onto those expectations. If we […]

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How to Get Your Child To Do What You Want

You’ve tried everything to get your child to do something that you want them (or need them) to do. In fact, you’ve probably tried almost everything you can think of from enticing them with material objects, to taking away their most prized possessions. So, why have your efforts failed? Operant conditioning could be your missing […]

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Your Child Notices More Than You Think

YOU TELL YOURSELF THAT YOUR CHILD…… Didn’t hear the arguing Didn’t notice you slept on the couch Doesn’t notice the lack of affection Didn’t hear you cry Didn’t notice how long you left the house Doesn’t feel the tension Is too young to know what’s happening   YOU TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU….. Argued outside of […]

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Unveiling Secret Thoughts in Your Teens Mind

In my practice I have had the pleasure of treating some incredible teenagers who have suffered from Social Anxiety Disorder. Unfortunately, by the time these youngsters and their families get to my office, they are at risk of failing school due to chronic truancy, are reported to have behavioral problems, and the adults in their […]

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Divorcing? 4 Tips on How to Tell Your Children

Author: Danielle Forshee, Psy.D ,LCSW So, you’ve decided you’re getting a divorce. Now for the hardest decision of all- informing your children. Many parents avoid telling their children that they are getting a divorce, and find themselves debating over what and how to tell them.Avoiding this topic with your children altogether is a short-term way of managing […]

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3 Tips for Co-Parenting with Your Ex

Author: Danielle Forshee, Psy.D, LCSW Divorce alone does not have a negative impact on children. The conflict and hostility that arises between parents is what causes the long-term negative psychological effects. The goal in co-parenting counseling is to achieve better communication and learn how to problem-solve for your child’s best interests, even though you and your […]

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Could You Have Adult ADHD?

Author: Danielle Forshee Psy.D, LCSW Recently, I have had a few friends ask me if I think they have adult Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Usually, I start out by asking them to consider what may be going on in their lives that could be causing them difficulty with concentrating or focusing. For many adults, stressors of […]

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4 Reasons Your Partner is Snooping

Author: Danielle Forshee, Psy.D, LCSW If you have caught your partner snooping through your belongings and electronics, or suspect that your partner may be, there are a few things you should know about the psychology of snooping. These insights may save your relationship- and your sanity. Those who sneakily sift through their partner’s belongings are […]

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Three Communication Tips You Need to Know

Author: Danielle Forshee, Psy.D, LCSW Do people tell you that you ‘nag,’ or have an ‘attitude’? Do you find yourself repeating the same thing to your spouse, children, or other family members- and they don’t seem to listen? Or, have you been told that you don’t listen? If this describes you, or someone you love, […]

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For Gay and Transgender Teens, Will It Get Better?

Last month, The Center for Disease Control released one of the most comprehensive national studies on sexual-minority youth. In a national survey of 15,600 students in the 9th-12th grade, it was found that teens who identify as gay, lesbian or bisexual ( 8% of the high school population, or 1.3 million students) suffer from substantially […]

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7 Behaviors That Ruin a Relationship

Early on in romantic relationships, we are high on the excitement of new love. As time passes, people have the tendency to feel vulnerable, and then withdrawal from the loving behavior you became accustomed to. If you find your relationship going in this direction, there are behavioral and communication strategies that can help you. Individual […]

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The “How was your day” trap that most parents fall into & how to get out of it: Communication tips and guidance for parents.

Author: Danielle Forshee, Psy.D, LCSW It’s about that time- back to school for your kids! It’s also that time when you ask your child regularly, “How was your day”, and they respond with one-worded answers such as, “Fine”, or “Okay”. If this pattern continues on for the entire school year, both you and your child […]

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Proceed with caution before considering antidepressant drugs for your child.

YOU are your child’s best advocate, and I am here to provide empowerment and knowledge for you, as parents. Please proceed with caution before considering antidepressant drugs for your child. Your children’s brains are still developing, and there is only a limited amount of research on the use of antidepressants in youth. Talk therapy (Cognitive […]

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