Well, the answer is you did not deserve it- no one does. There may have been myriad problems with your relationship – it still does not excuse or justify the action taken by your partner to engage in improper relations with someone else while behaving as if they are committed to you.
Here are some things you can do to help yourself heal from the trauma of being cheated on.
If you feel as though you are struggling, seek help. Talk about it. Maybe not to a professional, if you don’t want to, but it is really important for your own mental well-being that you talk about your pain. The process of healing can only begin with acceptance and can only begin once you have processed what has happened to you and talked about it with whomever you trust the most. This will open up your mind and your heart to new possibilities, and the emotions churning inside of you will be released, and that can only be for the better. “Better out than in”, and all that.
Find A New Hobby And Get Outside
Once you have picked yourself up off the floor and dried your tears, once you have opened up about your trauma, you can begin to heal. One addition could be a new hobby, in a bid to perhaps reinvent yourself as a new person after your traumatic experience. Take up photography, painting, drawing, pool, swimming, whatever it might be – it is also very important that you get outside during this time – take a moment to go for a hike or a walk in the woods. Clear your mind and breathe. It’s going to be okay, and so are you!
Speak With Your Significant Other
Once you have taken the time for yourself, to collect yourself, if you feel strong enough – confront your significant other who broke your heart. Have a frank, honest conversation about their behavior and how it hurt you. This may help you get some closure on the matter and begin to move on with your life. If you don’t feel like you can, that’s fine, but it is something to consider. If you’re considering staying with your partner after they have been unfaithful, counseling should be your first step.
Cheating is one of the most difficult betrayals. Your idea of what the relationship was might be over, but your life isn’t. In fact, it could just be the beginning of a new chapter- with or without that person.