Anger is a normal human emotion; it is how we express our anger that matters. This does not mean suppressing anger or denying it exists. The premise of anger management is to learn constructive and meaningful ways of expressing and managing this emotion.
Whatever the reason for how the anger problem developed, it is important to know that therapy offers tools to help you manage your anger more effectively and still get what you want. In fact, by managing your anger you will probably find that you are more likely to get what you want because you will be better able to maintain relationships and work with difficult situations.
I have extensive experience working in this area and also provide court-involved anger management for those who have found themselves in trouble with the law as a result. Problems with the management of anger do not develop overnight, and I will work with you to learn about your triggers and patterns when it comes to anger. This involves reviewing situations where you have lost your temper or done something out of anger that you later regret. You may choose to talk about this yourself, or you can invite someone you trust to attend a few sessions with you to offer their perspective on the situation. This is sometimes helpful for people who have a hard time talking about their anger management problem even if they know that a problem exists. Once your particular patterns and triggers are better understood, the anger management work can begin in full force. I will help you to harness your anger, remove yourself from situations that are likely to provoke an outburst, and repair problems if you have a slip. Depending on the nature of your particular anger management style, therapy may involve practicing new communication techniques, learning ways to relax yourself when you feel an outburst coming on, or learning how to spot problems before they start.