Dr. Forshee spoke with Bustle about relationships rules that you shouldn’t follow if you want to create a stronger bond with your partner.
“When we make a decision to tell a white lie, we are psychologically justifying to ourselves why we cannot be forthcoming with our partner […] whether it be because we worry about how it’s going to make them feel, how it will make us feel, or what they will think of us” licensed psychologist Dr. Danielle Forshee tells Bustle. “In a healthy relationship, learning to deal with the disappointments, including potentially hurting our partner’s feelings, comes with the territory.”
So the fewer white lies you can tell each other, the better. “Over time, telling white lies can snowball into bigger lies, resulting in tarnishing the foundations of trust in the relationship, as well as creating emotional distress for the person telling the lie because it becomes difficult to keep up with the lies,” Dr. Forshee says. “Guilt may begin building, creating more psychological distress.” And that’s just not worth it.
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