Elite Daily – 3 Little Ways To Put Yourself First When You’re Naturally A People Pleaser

Dr. Forshee shared tips with Elite Daily readers on how to put yourself and learn how to say no.

According to Dr. Danielle Forshee, LLC, doctor of psychology and licensed clinical social worker, a tell-tale sign that someone is a people-pleaser is their inability to say no and actually stand their ground. Trust me, I know from experience, and especially when someone asks for a favor to my face, it’s unbelievably hard for me to turn them down. But here’s the thing: You and I are only human, and there’s only so much of us to spare, and while it may be great that you have the kind of heart that genuinely wants to lend a hand wherever and whenever one is needed, you just can’t do it all — which, BTW, is totally OK.

Forshee tells Elite Daily that even though the word “no” tends to have a negative connotation when someone is asking for your help, it’s not selfish to turn someone down if your plate is already overflowing, or even if you just don’t have the energy to spare. “If we say yes to everything, we would not have any time or energy left to focus on ourselves,” she adds, so you have to be able to identify what you can handle, and who is worth your time and energy.

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