Should your partner help pay your rent? Dr. Forshee weighs in with Elite Daily!
I know it’s super awkward to have this kind of conversation with your partner, especially if the relationship is still on the new-ish side, but Dr. Danielle Forshee, doctor of psychology and licensed clinical social worker, suggests thinking of this in two ways: 1) as a way to show respect toward your roommate, and 2) as a potential new phase in yours and your SO’s relationship.
If your partner is over at the apartment so often that your roomie begins to view them as an actual new roommate, Dr. Forshee says, “this may be a sign that you and your partner are transitioning into a new phase of your relationship” — which is a way more positive way to think about the situation, wouldn’t you say? Your relationship is growing, and it may be time to take the leap into new, yet exciting uncharted territory, like maybe actually living together.
“Because you are so wrapped up in the emotional aspect of love,” Dr. Forshee says, “you may not see things the same way your roommate sees things, such as: a certain level of unfairness associated with using the electricity, eating the food, and the space itself.”
So, she adds, if your roommate asks your partner to chip in a little, it’s not necessarily right or wrong. Consider the fact that they’re coming from a practical perspective, whereas you may be caught up in the emotions of the situation, Forshee explains.
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